Sometimes weird shit just happens for which I have no explanation. Today I was on my way to a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous, walking across Wilshire Boulevard when my “Walk” signal was showing. A car that was coming the other direction made a last second right turn and barely missed me in the crosswalk.
The guy looked dazed and in a panic. I just raised my hands and mouthed “Really?” He drove off in his fancy BMW like most assholes do who drive those cars.
Wait, I used to drive one of those cars.
I thought about this guy for another couple of blocks and then entered a restaurant, which houses the AA meeting each day. I look across the table and who is there? That’s right: My friend who almost hit me in the BMW. We each started sharing what was happening in our lives. The BMW guy raises his hand and says that his name is Michael and this is his first AA meeting and first day of sobriety.
In my universe, I saw a guy not paying attention in some fancy car. In his universe, he may have been in a panic and nervous as hell before his first meeting of AA. This is the foundation for the way of thinking, and my recently published book: “Ubiquitous Relativity.” Two people experience a situation and judge it solely by the laws of their individual universes. I judged this guy based on the laws of my universe, without knowing the first thing about what was happening in his universe. Clearly, if I knew his situation before walking into that crosswalk I would have had a completely different reaction to his right turn.
For whatever reason this same guy who angered me minutes earlier turned out to be someone I felt incredible empathy for and wanted to help after I learned just three seconds worth of additional information.
There are 7.5 Billion people in the world.
There are 86,400 seconds in one day.
Imagine a world where we all pause on 1 judgment a day.