The other night I was eating at a Thai Restaurant.
As a reminder, my wife and I were just in Thailand for a month and travelled to many parts of the that country.
The waitress came to our table and asked me what we would like to eat. As I am never one to miss an opportunity to demonstrate my worldliness, I asked her: "What part of Thailand are you from?"
She responded pleasantly: "I am not from Thailand."
The eponymous philosophy of my upcoming book "Ubiquitous Relativity" encourages a pause on judgment before applying the laws of my universe to the laws of someone else's universe.
I was in a Thai restaurant and the waitress appeared Asian to me. Combine that with an eagerness to show my newly expanded experiences and I quickly applied the laws of my universe to the universe of the waitress. I was slightly embarrassed at first, but I view it as one more opportunity to appreciate the need for me to pause on judgment.
My goal right now is to pause on one judgment a day. I am pretty certain the next time this situation presents itself, I might first pose the question: "Where are you from?"